Friends Are Important

Family is real important but so are friends! They are there for you through hard times, and good times. I'm very blessed because when I stop and think, I'm rich with great friends. I recently spent time with a life long friend. No matter how long we go with out speaking, when we get back together its like we haven't missed a beat. With the invention of Facebook, I am able to keep up with many friends. I have seen time and time again where people sacrifice friends for romantic relationships.....what a shame. When that emotional relationship is done, they frequently look around and realize that they have abandoned all of their friends. Don't be that person!

Rattle Snake

This story explains so much!

An Indian was on a mountain top in the dead of winter. The Indian came up on a rattle snake. The rattle snake asked the Indian to carry it down the mountain because it was deathly cold. The Indian replied with, no I will not carry you, you will bite me! The rattle snake pleaded with Indian saying, I promise I won't bite you, I will die up here if I don't come down, please take me to the bottom of the mountain. The Indian finally agreed to take the snake to the bottom of the mountain. The Indian put the snake in his coat and took the snake to the bottom of the mountain. When the Indian got to the bottom of the mountain, he sat the rattle snake on the ground. The rattle snake immediately bit the Indian. The Indian said, I thought you said that you wouldn't bite me!!!!! The rattle snake replied...... you knew I was a rattle snake when you picked me up and you knew I would bite you, but you carried me anyway!

The point of this story is, if you know its a rattle snake, its gonna stay a rattle snake! If the warning signs are there in the beginning, pay attention to them! Its very rare that people really do change! And things never change!

Taking A Break From Being Clever

John Mayer whom up until this point is a musical artist that I had a lot of respect for recently made some really off color comments about black women to Playboy magazine. Mayer eventually apologized publicly in Nashville of all places for his comments. He said that he needs to take a break from trying to be clever. Obviously Mayer was trying to be funny and he wasn't. Here is a perfect example of what happens when somebody attempts to be someone that they are not. If you have to put that much effort into being funny, or to win peoples attention you are eventually going to say something really stupid and look like an idiot. So the lesson of this story is be yourself, because when you are not........you are going to look like the idiot, and people are going to start at you in bewilderment!

Its All Temporary

I have decided that there is no point in letting things bother me. All things and situations are temporary! The BS at work, the crap your man puts you through, people being fake etc. I see people getting worked up about various situations......... who cares its just temporary! Im appreciating the good things in life. I don't have a baby of my own, but I get to hold and love baby Charlie and all the other babies which makes me so grateful. I don't have a man but I have an amazing family that loves me. I have the girls, we are gonna have a great time friday night, just hanging out at the jewelry party. When I need my inspiration to love myself I just turn on Beyonce or Dave Matthews and its all good! As Madea says; look in the mirror, smile at ya self....... TING!!!!!!!

Importance Of Friendship

True friendships are so important. Over the past several months I have had several friends go through some type of heart breaking situation. Its hard because I want to be the type of friend that I want to be, however I have realized that I have to be the type of friend that they need me to be. At the same time I have to take care of myself and my own feelings. In the past I have invested way to much emotion and time on what I thought were friendships. People will take advantage of you if you are always there, i.e. only call on you when something goes wrong but when its good you don't hear from them. Im over that, im no longer the one. I have also decided that I will no longer beg someone to let me be there for them either, if they don't want it then thats their loss not mine! However to all of my real friends out there, im there for you no matter what, through what ever. I recently had a co-worker thank me for attending his fathers funeral, it was extremely cold this particular day and he was sorry for the inconvenience. I told him that it was not an inconvenience because I know that he would be there me at the drop of a hat! Its such a great feeling to know that I have people that I can call anytime of day and they will be there. It was when my grandmother died when I realized which friends would "inconvenience" themselves to be there for me. It was a surprise and a let down all at the same time. It was a good lesson learned, even though Friendship is important, be careful with expectations, expectations of people lead to disappointment.

Keep It Moving in 2010

Keep It Moving is what I plan to do in 2010. There are promotions that need to be made, money to be made, life to live, fun to have, love to give, relationships to me make, and much more. If you want it, buy it. Take full advantage of being with family, and friends. For my friends out their that are stuck in a relationship with somebody who aint trying to do nothing.......keep it moving! For my girls (and you know who you are) if you have a man that you need to finally get rid of...2010 is the year.......keep it moving, like Beyonce said......to the left to the left! Make life productive in 2010, KEEP IT MOVING!!!!!!!!! I won't even have time for a water break, im gonna be moving so fast!

Learning How To Lead

Learning to be a good leader is an awesome thing. I learn something everyday! Figuring out things that make people respond in a positive way is great. The biggest thing that I have learned is to be myself, be humble and admit that I can learn something from the people that I supervise, treat them with respect, and make my expectations clear. Like I have mentioned before, Im learning from a great group of men who clearly have a vision of what great leadership is. I have a boss who is willing to help me be a great leader. Some say that being a female who is leading mostly men has its complications, and I suppose it does, but I feel that as long as I do me and no one else it will be alright. I want everyone to respect me as a good leader and not just the position. Im just gonna keep on learning!